Thirty is the new 20! 💋

Let’s get one thing straight here…30 is the new 20!

So here’s the scoop:

I get told on a daily basis that I look every bit of 19-24 yrs. old. When you’re 30 this is the greatest compliment. Until you sit down with a teenager and they look at you straight faced in the eyes and say, “I think 30 is old”. Truth is, when I was 13, I thought 30 was a lifetime away and yes, it was OLD.

But times have changed, and I’m rolling with them full fledge! And I am done believing this LIE!

Yes I’m tired all the time, and prefer a glass of wine on the couch over a night out, but that doesn’t make me a senior citizen (I love them btw).

This light hearted topic brings me to a bigger issue within our society of yet another “PRESSURE”. We are pressured to believe that you MUST have a spouse, children, 401K plan, house, multiple cars, investments, multiple degrees, a gym membership and make monthly charitable contributions all by the age of 30! Who the heck made this stuff up?!  Why does society pressure me into thinking that I have failed at life if I don’t have at least half of the items mentioned? Why does society force us into believing that life should be completely figured out by 30? Please find this person who had this bright idea and send them my way!

This is WRONG! 👊🏾

Life is a journey that is filled with twists, turns, mistakes, triumphs, failures and unpredictable moments. Does this mean I am not a success because I’m not married or with child at 30? Nah!

Society has an annoying way of placing pressure on all of us, no matter your age, race or gender.

I do believe that life offers you experience and by 30 you should have some things in place, and be settled enough to at least care for yourself. But all the other “stuff” doesn’t come for everyone by this time. Trust me, I KNOW. And I refuse to feel bad about not being where the societal dictionary tells me I should be!

Yes, I’m behind on the latest IG updates and can’t seem to figure out how to add multiple items to my IG story but I’m up on snapchat! Haha! 💁🏽

I’m learning at the age of 30 (2months shy of 31) to take my life and apply my own pressure! Push myself to attain the goals I have set for myself, no matter what age! After all, it really is just a number. I’m taking my experiences and wisdom, and moving forward by the grace of God.

This message is not exclusive to 30 year olds, it’s to everyone. Do not listen to what society says we should do or have by their time frame. Live your life, set your own goals and work at them. Goals can be mapped out (degrees, finances, etc.) but I personally feel that Life can’t. You have to roll with the punches and accept the journey God mapped out for YOU! Each person has a different path!

Don’t be so hard on yourself! Your life is not mine and my life is not yours. Take ownership of your destiny and leave society’s opinions behind.

Huge shout out to my lovely bff for suggesting this blog topic! 😘

Ask yourself, how old do I feel??? I feel 25, so yea I still have time to make it happen! 😏

Live.Laugh.Love and GROW!

XoXo

Cryslove

You QUIT?!

Ever watched a movie where the main character decides to quit and completely give up on their talents? Odds are stacked against them, they reach a breaking point and decide I QUIT? But then an event occurs or they have this huge epiphany and instantly get back in the game, or get back in the fight!

Yea, I’m that character! And my game is called REAL F#!@n’ Life! I completely tapped out this week and QUIT! I literally said it out loud! I QUIT! I have no more strength to keep fighting. People always compliment me on being so strong and having such calmness about myself, but in reality I literally am losing it. Not every single day! But I have my moments, and this week was a few days of “Moment” LOL.

What does it really mean to Quit? It’s a universal term that holds the same weight anywhere you go. It means to give up, throw in the towel, and leave all hope of succeeding behind. I QUIT on myself this week. I felt like I had no strength left in me to keep trying.

Being a “Creative” is more difficult than most people think. You have to be stronger than the next at all times. You’re fighting to be free and do exactly what it is your heart desires!

I work a 9-5 (great job that I’m thankful for) but I want more! I act, model, sing, mentor, host, plan events, write, and so much more! And guess what, I love doing all of that but none of it has flourished the way I’d hope and it’s partially because of my job. I’m tired and frustrated all the time. And I won’t even start on my personal life! That’s a soap opera in the making!

At times, the frustration is overwhelming and the pressure to give MYSELF what it is I want becomes tough. So I quit! At least for a day I did…

Now, I’m back in the game. I’m getting my resume edited, renewed my gym membership and I’m not quitting. Isn’t that the ultimate goal in life…to be HAPPY?! Whatever HAPPY looks like for you, you shouldn’t QUIT til you obtain it! At that point, you shouldn’t QUIT so that you can KEEP IT!

I’m not quitting anymore! I owe it to myself and to those around me to never give up on myself.

This blog is my THERAPY! This is my way of speaking it out loud and shouting to the cyber world that I SHALL NOT GIVE UP!

I encourage that 1 person that may read this today, to never give up on your dreams, aspirations, goals, or your happiness. Fight for it! My fight may differ from yours but we are still fighting together. I am willing to be transparent for the sake of letting someone know that you’re not alone and that we all have our days! We all have our fights! You can act like you got it all together if you want to, but I for one will admit it’s a struggle but not IMPOSSIBLE to overcome!

DON’T QUIT!

Side note: I’m always open to sharing an open dialogue via email if you are in need of support! I’m a great listener ;) my email is crystalfoster.d@gmail.com

Cryslove

XOXO